Gather round. There’s a space for you, no matter the flavour of your mother grief. We all have it in some form or another.
A circle will be cast. The container will be set, clear and solid- a net of holding, sharing, and witness.
There are only two rules - no comparing and no judgement.
If you have a mother, have lost a mother, or you are a mother, this is the place for you.
The depths of a mother’s love has the power to move mountains. And that Deep Love also carves a hollow that holds the potential for great pain, brutal loss, and profound devastation.
THIS MAY BE FOR YOU IF YOU:
Are parenting without a village
Have experienced pregnancy loss, abortion, or stillbirth
Are estranged from your mother / your child
Are feeling the ache of empty-nesting
Have had to give up your identity, hobbies, or passions for motherhood
Are a mother feeling heavy about going back to paid work
Have a mother with dementia and are saying “the long goodbye”
Have a mother who has died
Wish you could be a mother
Feel you can’t be the mother your child needs
Have been let down, neglected, or abandoned by your mother
Have struggled to express your grief around your children or support their grief
Parent a child who’s struggles or suffering you cannot fix
(please note, this gathering has been created to support forms of mother related ambiguous loss, if you are a bereaved parent, you will be better supported by attending a group focused on the death of a child)
Admitting the existence of mother grief does not mean you don't have love and gratitude for your mother/child relations. Grief and Love are sisters.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Anyone who is feeling grief around their past or current relationship with their mother, OR anyone who is a mother, or wants to be a mother and is feeling the ache that comes along with that territory. It’s for everyone who has mother related grief!
If you suspect that you would be best supported by one-on-one grief coaching, I would be happy to discuss that as a separate offering, but this is not the space for individuals who really need the presence and holding of a practitioner for their own process.
If the intensity of your grief is such that you think therapy is the next best step, please do that first before stepping into the circle/ritual space.
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Rule number one is that there is no comparison in grief. We will not diminish our own or others pain in this container.
Your deepest grief is your deepest grief, so everyone will be encouraged to share what they are grappling with (sharing is always optional). Everyone’s pain is valid and we aim to refrain from judgement (which is rule number 2!). Most often it is OUR OWN judgement and comparison we need to contend with.
All mother grief is welcome, and nothing is considered insignificant.
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Big feelings are welcome, tears are welcome. You are allowed to be messy and undone. And- we will titrate the experience, and go slowly. You are responsible for how deeply you choose to go, and you will be expected and encouraged to take care of yourself in whatever ways you need. (eg taking a break, refraining from participating or sharing if needed etc).
(please note, this gathering has been created to support forms of mother related ambiguous loss, if you are a bereaved parent, you will be better supported by attending a group focused on the death of a child. Check out: https://tcfcanada.net/chapters/british-columbia/) -
We will arrive and LAND by tuning into the natural world, with guided breath and guided visualization.
There will be clear communication of what we are doing and what the parameters are. A ‘safe enough’ container will be set, so you have the grounding to step into a communal space that allows for brave and vulnerable sharing.
There will be guided rituals designed to release what no longer serves you, and to process and metabolize your grief.
We will move our bodies and go at a slow pace, we will listen to our nervous systems, and resource from Mother Earth.
This four hour gathering is $125, please reach out if you want to join and need a flexible payment option.